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It is a basic fact that water rolls downhill. “So what” you say. Well, that is an obvious truth. So is the fact that toxic leaders can cause their employees to act badly. However, there is another part to this equation. While people are blaming their bosses for blaming and shaming the same is true of employees who return the blame and point to the boss. This is a pattern of victimization and…Read More

Dave and I were walking into the off-site meeting room together. He is a big, strong man who is used to leading teams. Now he leads at work and in the past he led in war. Dave has an amazing record from his time in Iraq when he was in Special Forces. He does not talk about it often. All I know is that he saved lives and helped many get out of harm’s way before the damage was too awful. This se…Read More

Dear Dr. Sylvia, My boss is the nastiest, mean woman I know. I cringe every time she says “Good morning.” Now, please don’t get me wrong. I really like most people. I would probably like her if she were not my boss. She is so particular and there is nothing I can do right. For example: she was an English major in college (she LOVES to tell us this) and while she is head of I.T. she speaks li…Read More

So you are frustrated with your direct reports. You can’t seem to get to the bottom of their gossiping and slacking off at work. You have talked to each one separately and no one is willing to say what is really going on. Pattern Interrupt is the way to go. Normally you call together a team and ask “what is going on” and you do the same thing with the individuals to no avail. Open the di…Read More

Did you ever think it is better to tell just a little white lie rather than have someone be upset with you? We all have at one time or another. Then there is the opposite extreme where the truth is told in anger with judgment, blame and attack. Not pretty! What a gift to have a boss who is not afraid of the truth, who is willing to let you be uncomfortable for the sake of growth. What a rel…Read More

Did you ever have a boss who was or is a bully? Someone who always tells you what you are doing wrong and blaming you when the situation has some thorns around the roses that prick and draw blood? These are not what I mean by extraordinary. They are, sadly, a dime a dozen. And these persecutor, bully bosses often have one thing in common. They grew up in families where they had way too much…Read More

Who are the employees who drive most bosses crazy? They are … ta da…. The rebels. Rebels are those who always find something wrong at work and want to gather the troops to take their case to HR. And if HR does not respond, well, there is always a hungry lawyer lurking in the corners who is ready to go at it with a hostile work environment suit. Now, don’t get me wrong. Some situations …Read More

Why do so many of us cringe in the face of conflict? It’s because the little kid part of us that looked up at those giants in our world (that means any adult) and knew they were big and we were small, and they would win and we would lose when it came to decision making, makes us feel….inadequate. You have two choices: one is to smile into the face of conflict and say “Welcome t…Read More

Are you tired from all the bully boss blogs? Tired of all the negativity and “gotcha game” complaints that go from co-worker to co-worker? Do you play in the CYA arena and get stocked with all the gossip at work? The month of December is the most gossipy month of the year. Office parties often lead to smirky comments about partners, clothes, and crappy surprise gifts (the ones that no one is t…Read More

I stood at the back of a fast food restaurant waiting for my colleague to get his coffee so we could sit in the summer weather when it isn’t even spring. My mind was in that “Thank God It’s Friday” mode when suddenly I found my ears circling around to eavesdrop on two employees. “I see you have your stupid smiling face on the wall as the employee of the month”. “Yeah, it…Read More