1. Pandora's Box

    Donald Trump, Pandora and the State of Our Nation

    There was a curious incident during a recent basketball game between the students of two high schools in Massachusetts. Is it because of Donald Trump? Or is it just that somewhere on the planet Pandora, that beautiful gal from Ancient Greece, once again opened the mysterious box she was told never to open. And all hell broke loose. Pandora opened the box hoping to see gowns of silk and bracelets o…Read More

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    How To Help a Toxic Boss Become a Positive Leader

    It is a basic fact that water rolls downhill. “So what” you say. Well, that is an obvious truth. So is the fact that toxic leaders can cause their employees to act badly. However, there is another part to this equation. While people are blaming their bosses for blaming and shaming the same is true of employees who return the blame and point to the boss. This is a pattern of victimization and…Read More

  3. How to Turn Vulnerability Into a Win at Work

    Dave and I were walking into the off-site meeting room together. He is a big, strong man who is used to leading teams. Now he leads at work and in the past he led in war. Dave has an amazing record from his time in Iraq when he was in Special Forces. He does not talk about it often. All I know is that he saved lives and helped many get out of harm’s way before the damage was too awful. This se…Read More

  4. How to Get Heard After You’ve Been Whacked Upside the Head

    Dear Dr. Sylvia, I know you think that we can all transform our negative patterns. I have my doubts. You see, I read your book…twice! And I still have a serious problem. I took the Pattern Aware Quiz and know I am considered a persecutor/bully. I have worked hard to change my style from being sharp and caustic with my team members. The transformation from persecutor to visionary just ain’t…Read More

  5. Can BAD People Be Good leaders?

    When Tom was fired from his CEO position there were lots of heads shaking side to side wondering what happened. Tom was a charismatic kind of guy who was always telling funny jokes and encouraging everyone to do the best they could do. He was both cheerleader and coach. So what happened? Let’s face it. Business can be brutal at the top rungs. The rules of the jungle often apply and if it is eat …Read More

  6. Leadership and kindness

    Are you tired from all the bully boss blogs? Tired of all the negativity and “gotcha game” complaints that go from co-worker to co-worker? Do you play in the CYA arena and get stocked with all the gossip at work? The month of December is the most gossipy month of the year. Office parties often lead to smirky comments about partners, clothes, and crappy surprise gifts (the ones that no one is t…Read More

  7. Can Bullying be Passive Aggressive?

    She smiled sweetly and said she understood what was needed for the product in her territory to sell better. She wrote down what was said in the sales meeting. She had a list of places to call and people to meet. Yet nothing happened. Her boss had stomach aches and sleepless nights. He would fall asleep with the memory of that sweet smile and the promises of success. He was at an impasse. When he f…Read More

  8. Can’t We Just Be Friends

    The following Time article is a great example of what happens when patterns we learned as children are not transformed as we grow into adulthood. There are many ways to look at our patterned behavior and be accountable for our part in all relationships. Female-female relating is becoming more and more polarized as we look at the housewives series on reality TV and the large number of women taken t…Read More

  9. Need for Leadership

    The torment for the parents of the young suicide victim, the children who are accused of causing the horrific situation, the parents of all these children, the school officials, in fact, all children, parents and teachers in the school are in this together.   Yet, as usual they end up standing at polar opposite sides of the scales of justice. This is truly no different that what goes on around th…Read More