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I just came home from shopping for the last minute gifts for my family. Was it fun? Well, some of it was and some of it was rather annoying. I took time to observe my reactions to the good moments and the sour ones. Then I found some research that aligned with my feelings and I decided to share this now, while we are still in the throes of holiday fever. At least till after the New Year’s bells…Read More

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How do you get year-end work done, prepare for family gatherings and stay in a happy mood when all you want to do in the morning is pull the covers over your head? That’s a question I get asked starting the day after Halloween non-stop till New Year’s Eve becomes a dull memory in early January. Why is there so much stress and frustration during this time of tinsel and mistletoe? Is it that w…Read More

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It is a basic fact that water rolls downhill. “So what” you say. Well, that is an obvious truth. So is the fact that toxic leaders can cause their employees to act badly. However, there is another part to this equation. While people are blaming their bosses for blaming and shaming the same is true of employees who return the blame and point to the boss. This is a pattern of victimization and…Read More

Dear Dr. Sylvia, I know you think that we can all transform our negative patterns. I have my doubts. You see, I read your book…twice! And I still have a serious problem. I took the Pattern Aware Quiz and know I am considered a persecutor/bully. I have worked hard to change my style from being sharp and caustic with my team members. The transformation from persecutor to visionary just ain’t…Read More

Dear Dr. Sylvia, I am a newly named director in a major tech company. We have been around for many years and have so many systems in place. However, what cannot be programmed (wish it could be!) are the human beings who surround me. Here is my dilemma: my boss is a mixture of a micro-manager and a hands off do-it-yourself type. The combination is crazy making. She is, in your pattern terms, a pers…Read More

We all know that it takes lots of good effort to make a meeting be successful. However, so many times meetings just fall short and people leave feeling like they have wasted those hours when they could have been getting real work done. In our Total Leadership Connections Program™ we spend a half day dissecting what makes a meeting work. It is like creating a Broadway play. A meeting needs creati…Read More

We all know about George Washington, Benjamin Franklin, and John Hancock. They are reminders of how determined we must all be when freedom is put in harm’s way. I have always wondered about the women of the Revolution. In school all we were taught was that Betsy Ross was known for sewing the American flag. Now, that in itself is a marvelous undertaking. However, there were so many others who we …Read More

When Tom was fired from his CEO position there were lots of heads shaking side to side wondering what happened. Tom was a charismatic kind of guy who was always telling funny jokes and encouraging everyone to do the best they could do. He was both cheerleader and coach. So what happened? Let’s face it. Business can be brutal at the top rungs. The rules of the jungle often apply and if it is eat …Read More

Dear Dr. Sylvia, My boss is the nastiest, mean woman I know. I cringe every time she says “Good morning.” Now, please don’t get me wrong. I really like most people. I would probably like her if she were not my boss. She is so particular and there is nothing I can do right. For example: she was an English major in college (she LOVES to tell us this) and while she is head of I.T. she speaks li…Read More

Dear Dr. Sylvia, The past few weeks have been like living in a super hot hell. There have been a ton of arguments and drama, mainly because one woman wants her way and is dividing our staff (we only have 20 people working on-site). There is Team A (Suzie’s team) and Team B (my team). It is evenly split with 10 for Suzie and 10 for me, Samantha. No real work is getting done. The issues are so stu…Read More