1. When Patterns of the Past Show Up in the Present

    I just finished reading a speech Vice President Joe Biden gave at Yale University. It brought tears to my eyes and I was compelled to read it again. This time I grabbed the tissue box, stopped what I was doing and sat wiping freely flowing tears away and sat looking out at the fully blossomed spring trees. Thunder was in the air and I imagined all the preparations for Beau’s funeral, all the ex…Read More

  2. What do you do when you are ignored?

    Did you ever sit in a restaurant and wonder if you had a snake on your head, or maybe a bird’s nest, or a mouse, or if your face had turned bright blue? You sit there and question why the server is taking so long to get to your table. It looks like everyone else is getting attention. Your meal drags on and on.  When you finally get your food, it is put in front of you with a grunt. You accept i…Read More

  3. Leadership Training: Work is NOT a Rehab Facility

    When you have a lazy employee, one who has excuses for everything, who acts like a victim when you point out work not done that needs to be done and all they do is make excuses; then what? I am asked all the time in my coaching sessions, “When do you finally let someone go”? Let’s go back to yesterday and the employee who could not get work done because the cat was sick. The first thing you …Read More

  4. A Halloween Gift

    This blog is on the personal level and I hope you find what I am about to share helpful. My mother died on Halloween years ago. Hard to forget the exact situation when it is not just an ordinary day, one usually filled with fun and costumes and candy and parties.   Those years ago I was in the middle of the worst time in my life. I was separating from my husband, finances were tight, my daughters…Read More

  5. Sylvia, Jon, and Asking Questions

      I am fascinated by the fact that there are so many words being written on the web, and yet, there are so few real questions being asked. Yesterday I was fortunate to talk with a reporter from TodayShow.com and what a difference!   We had a dialogue! Now, that is not something busy people do anymore. Dialogue is not debate. Debate is when there is a winner and a loser. It was not just plain con…Read More

  6. Battling Women and Windmills

    In our Total Leadership Connections program we teach participants to go beyond the obvious, that leadership in any field requires deep thought; superficial considerations are merely not enough. Recently asked what I thought about all the brouhaha around actor/director Mel Gibson’s racist and venomous comments to ex-girlfriend and mother of his child I decided to do some research. Based on what I…Read More

  7. 5 Things to Brighten Up the Work Week

      What if everyday at work was amazing, rewarding, conflict free, and wonderful?   If that were the case you would be living in a pretend paradise that, I can assure you, would get boring, boring, boring within a month.   Anyone remember the movie “Pleasantville“? It is a 50’s type family living in a 50’s type community where everything is so….well pleasant. The beginning of t…Read More

  8. Ya Never Know!!

      I was sitting at my computer writing away when the rain started and the wind blew. It had been sunny only moments earlier. I kept writing, intent about getting the article finished before going to present at a local leadership seminar.   Then I heard a thud. I stopped to explore. The big wind was busy whirling and letting us all know it was in charge.   The glass table on the outdoor patio ha…Read More

  9. Need for Leadership

    The torment for the parents of the young suicide victim, the children who are accused of causing the horrific situation, the parents of all these children, the school officials, in fact, all children, parents and teachers in the school are in this together.   Yet, as usual they end up standing at polar opposite sides of the scales of justice. This is truly no different that what goes on around th…Read More

  10. Bad Behavior at Home, School, Work

    Image by ihtatho via Flickr Bullying is an art form not dissimilar to caring. It takes persistence, practice, and purpose.   What does that really mean? It means that all behaviors become patterned responses if we do them consistently. There is a law in neurology, Hebb’s Law that states “neurons that fire together wire together”. So, if we practice it enough, if we see it modeled enough and…Read More