Dave and I were walking into the off-site meeting room together. He is a big, strong man who is used to leading teams. Now he leads at work and in the past he led in war. Dave has an amazing record from his time in Iraq when he was in Special Forces. He does not talk about it often. All I know is that he saved lives and helped many get out of harm’s way before the damage was too awful. This se…Read More

When Tom was fired from his CEO position there were lots of heads shaking side to side wondering what happened. Tom was a charismatic kind of guy who was always telling funny jokes and encouraging everyone to do the best they could do. He was both cheerleader and coach. So what happened? Let’s face it. Business can be brutal at the top rungs. The rules of the jungle often apply and if it is eat …Read More

Dear Savvy Sylvia, I want to quit my job. I am miserable. I went into healthcare to please my parents, both physicians. So, guess what I became? Nope, not a medical doctor. I became a senior V.P. in a large medical device company. Now, what we produce is really good and helps lots of people. And my parents are OK that I did not become a doc like them. At least, I am in the helping professions. HOW…Read More

Today officially marks the first day of summer. I don’t care that the ads have made it the end of May. This is official: longest day/shortest night…solstice. And man, is it hot on the east coast. Now that school is out and the new schedules are in place and the heat is up and the desire to just have fun is the summer requirement, what does that do to stress? Is summer a less stressful time? Is…Read More

In our Total Leadership Connections program we teach participants to go beyond the obvious, that leadership in any field requires deep thought; superficial considerations are merely not enough. Recently asked what I thought about all the brouhaha around actor/director Mel Gibson’s racist and venomous comments to ex-girlfriend and mother of his child I decided to do some research. Based on what I…Read More

  Yesterday I talked about the tension at work where men are searching for ways to navigate that tough middle road between being a great employee or business owner and a father who is present for his children.   I saw this dilemma first hand at an off-site with a national sales group. Picture the scene: the team of 22 from a sales organization was at The Country Place Retreat Center to have some…Read More

  Think about a moment when someone is judging a situation that seems untenable and you think “What did I do to make this so awful?”   Happens to the best of us; happens to all of us. What is the best way to handle the emotions that bubble up? Many become “the stuffers” and let the unpleasant feelings gurgle and gnaw at the solar plexus right above the stomach. That is why anti-acids are…Read More

  Lots of folks are taking the PatternAware quiz and beginning to look more deeply at the ingrained behaviors that are keeping them from living a full and fun life.   As your workplace relationship expert it is my delight to give tips and techniques to help you begin making changes that will turn these bothersome behaviors into their healthy opposites.   Here is what Charlene wrote: “I ha…Read More

  A female executive I am coaching called me very early this morning and complained about how hard Sunday would be for her. My response was not super professional; all I said was “Huh?”   She then launched into a soliloquy about the fact that she had made a conscious decision not to have children and every Mother’s Day she had tons of people who would look at her with sad expressio…Read More

  I was sitting at my computer writing away when the rain started and the wind blew. It had been sunny only moments earlier. I kept writing, intent about getting the article finished before going to present at a local leadership seminar.   Then I heard a thud. I stopped to explore. The big wind was busy whirling and letting us all know it was in charge.   The glass table on the outdoor patio ha…Read More