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		<title>Leadership Challenges for the New Year</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 28 Dec 2011 16:44:48 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[What can we do to help each other face the challenges of an economic climate that changes with the weather? There are no safe havens. Sears has been around forever and is closing stores. Old brands are dying, yet new ones will always come along to replace them. &#160; What...]]></description>
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<p>What can we do to help each other face the challenges of an economic climate that changes with the weather?</p>
<p>There are no safe havens. Sears has been around forever and is closing stores. Old brands are dying, yet new ones will always come along to replace them.</p>
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<p><strong>What do we want from our leaders to help us with the tides of change?</strong></p></blockquote>
<p>The following article gives food for thought. So does my response. Enjoy.</p>
<h3><a title="What does leadership look like?" href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/glenn-llopis/what-does-leadership-look_b_1170097.html?ir=Business" target="_blank">What does leadership look like?</a></h3>
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<h2><a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/glenn-llopis" rel="author">Glenn Llopis</a></h2>
<p>Bringing the immigrant perspective to business leaders</p>
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		<title>Leadership Contrast: Men and Power</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 22 Dec 2011 14:55:18 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#160; Lots of deaths of powerful men in the past year. Many have been dictators who had tons of money and little integrity. &#160; &#160; &#160; Think about these 3 questions: Ever wonder why we permit these men to “rule” us? Ever wonder why millions will stay quiet and let...]]></description>
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<p>Lots of deaths of powerful men in the past year. Many have been <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Dictator" target="_blank">dictators</a> who had tons of money and little integrity.</p>
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<p>Think about these 3 questions:</p>
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<li>Ever wonder why we permit these men to “rule” us?</li>
<li>Ever wonder why millions will stay quiet and let those who have found the path to brute power to keep it?</li>
<li>Ever think about how we can make a better difference and make a better world?</li>
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<p><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/V%C3%A1clav_Havel" target="_blank">Vaclav Havel</a> was an actor, a playwright, an artist. Maybe there is a clue there. The arts are a way to the heart. Even the word e<strong>ART</strong>h gives us a clue. Expressing oneself through music, movement, painting, poetry, theater touches the deep core of who we are. Maybe, just maybe, we should be finding leaders who have a different kind of power to lead us. Havel had that mysterious and important blend. What about you?</p>
<h3><a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/barry-d-wood/vaclev-havel-dead_b_1156664.html" target="_blank">Havel: Hero Of Our Time </a></h3>
<p>Click above to read the article by<a href="http://www.huffingtonpost.com/barry-d-wood" target="_blank"> Barry Wood</a>, Economics Journalist at HuffPost World.</p>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 22 Nov 2011 16:02:14 +0000</pubDate>
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		<title>Real Leadership, Robert Reich, and Ending Apathy</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 17 Nov 2011 17:26:20 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[The “new” politics is happening. It is a return, or maybe a new turn to participatory human scale democracy. It is what is blossoming all around this country, all around the world. Modern technology is being used for good, not just fun or stimulation. The world is coming together in...]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>The “new” politics is happening. It is a return, or maybe a new turn to participatory human scale democracy. It is what is blossoming all around this country, all around the world. Modern technology is being used for good, not just fun or stimulation. The world is coming together in a new way, and as <a title="Robert Reich" href="http://robertreich.org/" target="_blank">Robert Reich</a> states, apathy is taking a hike!</p>
<p>The wave of involvement includes local grassroots initiatives, a redefining of power, and a way of getting to the core of issues that impact all of us. This is not about the 99%, it really is about the human desire for reaching potential and being altruistic; helping each other.</p>
<p>The “new’ politics is expressed by an “organic” worldview; it is inclusive rather than exclusive. The balance is between “<a href="http://www.sylvialafair.com/blog/accountability/guys-and-dolls-and-leadership/" target="_blank">CARE and DARE</a><a href="http://blog.ceoptions.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/11/holistic-politics.jpg"><img class="alignleft size-thumbnail wp-image-2731" title="holistic politics" src="http://blog.ceoptions.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/11/holistic-politics-150x150.jpg" alt="" width="150" height="150" /></a>” which is the meeting place of male and female ways of thinking and being.</p>
<p>It is in everyone’s nature to care and it is in everyone’s nature to dare, to take risks and make a difference. The evolving worldview that is being shaken loose is seen in the camaraderie of young and elder, diverse folks from diverse backgrounds who no longer are willing to be told what to do and how to live.</p>
<p>The statements from Berkeley California to Manhattan New York are one and the same. We all matter. The perspective is eclectic in detail, yet, generally affirms the human need for far more that material well-being alone.  There is an exciting emphasis on holistic values that are life affirming and involve both inner trust in one’s deep beliefs of connectedness as well as group wisdom that we are all connected and no one wins unless we all do.</p>
<p>This is the core of what we teach in our<a title="Total Leadership Connections Program" href="http:///www.ceoptions.com/total-leadership-connectionstm/" target="_blank"> Total Leadership Connections</a> four session program. Come join us in the new wave of transformational leadership. Our new program begins in March 2012 and promises to be amazing and important at this time in the way the world is turning.</p>
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		<title>The “Inner Game” – 10 Steps That Lead to Success</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 15 Nov 2011 15:51:17 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[ The following guest blog by Marty Wolff truly resonates with our view of leadership, it’s equally important to have the business skills and the inner skills to really be an effective leader.  Enjoy his guest blog on the “Inner Game”. Many of the master teachers have been reminding us that...]]></description>
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<p><strong> <strong>The following guest blog by Marty Wolff truly resonates with our view of leadership, it’s equally important to have the business skills and the inner skills to really be an effective leader.  Enjoy his guest blog on the “Inner Game”.</strong></strong></p>
<p>Many of the master teachers have been reminding us that success, both personal and professional is an “inner game”. What happens on the inside will reveal itself on the outside. We have heard these comments from so many wise people over time, yet many of us still don’t understand the power of learning how to make this inner game work for our success.</p>
<p>In this context, success can be defined as achieving a certain tangible or intangible goal. Let’s avoid any detailed definitions of what goals are, let’s suffice it to say a goal is something you want to achieve, a place you want to be, or a state of mind that keeps you calm through good and not so good times.</p>
<p>I believe in the inner game. I have learned about it, practiced it and gained by the implementation of what I have learned. This knowledge has helped me stay on my game both personally and professionally.</p>
<p>So, here are the 10 steps that I believe will help you achieve <strong>YOUR</strong> success. These steps will also help you maintain a level of desired performance.</p>
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<li><em><strong>Take 100% responsibility</strong></em> for everything that happens to you and the actions you take everyday. Don’t blame your spouse, your boss, the weather, the stock market or anything else. No matter what happens, if you have the right frame of mind you will take the right actions to move you to a different and better place.</li>
<li><strong><em>Read everyday.</em></strong> John Maxwell tells us that our success is the result of our daily agenda. Read something about business, the world, building relationships or other positive literature everyday. Feed your mind just like you feed your body.</li>
<li><em><strong>Mediate everyday</strong></em>. I have finally discovered the power of meditation. John Assaraf and Jack Canfield convinced me “success leaves clues”. If these two very successful people meditate everyday then it’s good enough for me. The funny thing is, the more my mind is going in circles, the longer I meditate. This takes real discipline on my part. For full disclosure and to keep your expectations in line, I meditate in the morning for any where from 15 to 45 minutes. This practice will help you focus on what is really important.</li>
<li><em><strong>Plan and take action</strong></em> on a business opportunity or personal goal that will benefit you in 6 to 12 months. Because we are so busy, we tend to let the day’s activities pull us along. That will find us at the day exhausted and with little satisfaction. If you are a business owner or a sales person this is very important. Thinking and planning for something to occur several months out, pulls you toward the goal. It energizes you. And when the time comes, which will come whether you planned or not, you will be so pleased that you set a goal and achieved it.</li>
<li><strong><em>Send out a gratitude</em></strong> note everyday. There is ample evidence that being grateful to people that you interact with has a positive effect on your thinking. Positive thinking leads to positive behavior, positive behavior leads to positive results.</li>
<li><strong><em>Work on a proposal</em></strong> everyday. If you don’t have one, create one. In business this is easy. If you do not have an active client you are working on, start to write a proposal on an account you have not even contacted yet, you will see yourself developing a plan to make them a client. For your personal life you may want to plan for a family reunion, a vacation, a new car or anything else you want to have or create 6 to 12 months down the road.</li>
<li><strong><em>Visualize your success.</em></strong> “See” it in your mind as if it is already accomplished. Athletes do this all the time. Statistics validate that athletes that “see” their success are in fact more successful than their competition.</li>
<li><strong><em>Exercise.</em></strong> Get physical everyday. For most of us our work days are very sedentary. We sit and work on a computer or some similar work.You need to move around as much as possible during the day. Take a walk at lunch, go to the gym before or after work. Try to get a minimum of 30 minutes vigorous exercise everyday. For me that is a brisk walk just about every morning. I’m describing physical exercise, however it is the “mind game” that gets you moving.</li>
<li><em><strong>Keep the promises you make to yourself.</strong></em> This practice can jump start your success plan. If you promise yourself to spend specific time with your family, then do it! If you promise yourself to make that extra sales call today, then do it! If you promise yourself you will lose 10 pounds in the next 60 days, then do it! Keep your promises to yourself. This will lead to you being a trusted family member and business associate.</li>
<li>Finally. <strong><em>Affirm your worthiness.</em></strong> If you don’t believe you are worthy or deserve the success you seek, you will not get to where you want to go. If your self esteem needs work, then learn how to think better about yourself. You deserve peace and happiness.</li>
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<p>I have been mentored by so many people over the years. They don’t know that, however through books, webinars, white papers, magazines etc. I have tried to learn how to improve. Improvement and excellence is never an accident, you need to work at it everyday. I suggest you pay attention to folks like John Assaraf, Jack Canfield, John Maxwell, Seth Godin, Bob Burg, Febienne Fredrickson, Janet Attwod, and Robin Sharma to name a few.</p>
<p><strong><em>Good luck on your journey.</em></strong></p>
<p>Marty is the CEO of Marty Wolff Business Solutions (MWBS). &#8220;We help people and their organizations perform better than they ever imagined&#8221;. Marty can be reached at <a href="mailto:marty@martywolffbusinesssolutions.com">marty@martywolffbusinesssolutions.com</a> and his website is<a href="http://martywolffbusinesssolutions.com/"> http://martywolffbusinesssolutions.com</a>.</p>
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		<title>Leadership and the Female Brain</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[Yesterday I talked about the male brain under stress and the need to stimulate the brain to stay present by the click, tap, drum, or hum methods in meetings. I guess the click top pen was designed just for men to be able to handle the anxiety of difficult meetings....]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><img class="alignleft size-thumbnail wp-image-2706" title="woman's brain" src="http://blog.ceoptions.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/11/woman_brain_illustration2-300x207-150x150.jpg" alt="" width="150" height="150" />Yesterday I talked about the male brain under stress and the need to stimulate the brain to stay present by the<em> click, tap, drum, or hum</em> methods in meetings. I guess the click top pen was designed just for men to be able to handle the anxiety of difficult meetings.</p>
<p><em><strong>Now what about the women?</strong></em></p>
<p>It seems they have a different approach to stress and anxiety. Women’s brains are hard wired to connect the dots, to see how one thing is connected to another. This has to do with the fact that females have ten times more <a href="http://http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/White_matter"><strong>white matter</strong></a> in their brains. This white matter goes across both sides of the brain and everything has something to do with everything else.</p>
<p>So, when women get anxious in a meeting?</p>
<p><strong>TOO MUCH INFORMATION!</strong> Yup, there is a tendency to talk about <strong>ALL</strong> the details in a project. Some women have mastered this addictive desire to tell it all while others are like that Chatty Cathy doll of yore and keep going until the battery starts to wear down.</p>
<p>Here is a rule of thumb when you are doing the talking: the more anxious, the more details. What you can do is tame the stress by some deep breathing, taking a bio break (what I like to call “liquid leveling”), even just deciding to stand up if you are sitting or sit down if you are standing. Anything to change your physical state even for a moment will help.</p>
<p>Details are good. Connecting the dots of how aspects of a situation fit together are important. However, too much of anything becomes toxic. So, ladies watch out for too many details.</p>
<p>How we relate in the workplace is one of the major aspects of our <a href="http://http://www.ceoptions.com/gutsy-women-leadership-development/"><strong><span style="color: #ff0000;">GUTSY WOMEN WEEKEND</span></strong></a>. Join us! The next one is scheduled on Friday evening November 11 through Sunday morning November 13 at <a href="http://www.retreatpa.com">The Country Place Retreat and Conference Center</a> in White Haven Pa. Email <a href="mailto:maryjane@ceoptions.com">maryjane@ceoptions.com</a> or call 570 636 3858 for more details.</p>
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		<title>Gender Smart Tools and Leadership Development</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 03 Nov 2011 19:22:36 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>sylvia</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#160; Meetings can be boring, infuriating, or creative. Regardless of the exact emotion, they all are stress inducing. And with stress comes ways of responding that are hard wired in our brains. Knowing about how you tend to react and ways others are prone to react, gives you a leg...]]></description>
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<p>Meetings can be boring, infuriating, or creative. Regardless of the exact emotion, they all are stress inducing. And with stress comes ways of responding that are hard wired in our brains. Knowing about how you tend t<img class="alignleft size-medium wp-image-2685" title="men and women" src="http://blog.ceoptions.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/11/Disagreement2-300x199.jpg" alt="" width="300" height="199" />o react and ways others are prone to react, gives you a leg up in how to handle your part during the encounter.</p>
<p>In my book, “<a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0470404361?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=wwwceoptionsc-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=9325&amp;creativeASIN=0470404361">Don’t Bring It to Work</a>”, I discuss the 13 most common behavior patterns that show up in the workplace. Now, I would like to add the specific ways that are gender driven.</p>
<p>When men are under stress and exhaustion, there is a tendency to stimulate the brain to stay present to the situation at hand. Think about the last meeting you had and if there were any males in the room either clicking a pen, tapping a foot, drumming on the table or maybe even humming under their breath.</p>
<p>These are ways that the male brain says “pay attention and stay with the situation at hand”.<br />
I learned about this phenomenon when consulting with a company whose senior team was furious with their boss. They found him to be, well, bossy.  He was like a marine drill sergeant always demanding and belittling when what he wanted didn’t happen the way he wanted. You know the type.</p>
<p>In any case, it was time to tell the truth and become a more cohesive team. I knew we were making progress by the amount of time the CEO spent clicking his pen in the meetings. As the situation bended and morphed into one of more compatibility, the clicking was less intense.<br />
Okay, now you know about the male brain under stress or exhaustion: click, tap, drum, hum. Tomorrow I’ll tackle the female brain.</p>
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		<title>What Is Foursquare Anyway?</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 13 Oct 2011 20:15:43 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>sylvia</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I have been asked to review books for McGraw Hill and it is really so much fun. I get to read all the new stuff just before it hits the market and let you all know what is good and what is great. This book, “The Power of Foursqaure” is...]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://blog.ceoptions.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/power-of-foursquare.png"><img class="alignleft size-medium wp-image-2677" title="power-of-foursquare" src="http://blog.ceoptions.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/power-of-foursquare-220x300.png" alt="" width="220" height="300" /></a>I have been asked to review books for McGraw Hill and it is really so much fun. I get to read all the new stuff just before it hits the market and let you all know what is good and what is great.</p>
<p>This book, <strong>“<a title="The Power of Foursquare" href="http://www.amazon.com/Power-foursquare-Innovative-Customers-Wherever/dp/0071773177/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1318536411&amp;sr=8-1">The Power of Foursqaure</a>”</strong> is a bit out of my usual comfort zone. I am a people- person who still loves the sight and sounds of being with someone and discussing what really matters for business, for the world.</p>
<p>However, as I was reading this well researched book by Carmine Gallo I realized how important the tech-people connection really is. It is here to stay and actually makes the connection between us as individuals and the products we buy so much more effective.</p>
<p><strong>Foursquare </strong>is a social, mobile networking and location based service.  It helps you find the best places and services in a, well, foursquare area of where you are. Need shoes, a restaurant, a dog grooming salon; foursquare can help with a push of a button.</p>
<p>This book includes case studies from all types of companies; not for profit and those that bring in big bucks. From The American Red Cross to Radio Shack to NASA there is a way to connect your brands, harness new fans, and engage your followers.</p>
<p>Gallo, a former correspondent for CNN and CBS uses his journalistic ability to ask great questions and dig for solutions to complex situations.</p>
<p>If you are in business in the 21<sup>st</sup> Century this book will help you stay ahead of the curve of what is being brought to us via the bright minds of companies like Foursquare.</p>
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		<title>New Patterns of Leadership</title>
		<link>http://www.ceoptions.com/wp/2011/10/02/new-patterns-of-leadership/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 02 Oct 2011 20:29:32 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>sylvia</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[How does a social epidemic start? How can it be used for real and lasting change to occur? What are we yearning for anyway? The sparks from Occupy Wall Street are spreading. What is the organizing principle? The media says the folks who protest and march are not clear. Yes,...]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://blog.ceoptions.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/Brooklyn-Bridge.jpg"><img class="alignright size-full wp-image-2671" title="Brooklyn-Bridge" src="http://blog.ceoptions.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/Brooklyn-Bridge.jpg" alt="" width="280" height="196" /></a>How does a social epidemic start? How can it be used for real and lasting change to occur? What are we yearning for anyway? The sparks from Occupy Wall Street are spreading. What is the organizing principle? The media says the folks who protest and march are not clear. Yes, they are. It is about something so basic it is almost impossible to consider. It is about new ways of organizing the human enterprise. We all need to participate. It’s not about finger pointing, it’s about a vital redesign. What a great time to be alive. Let’s all add our best thinking and create something amazing that will include everyone. What can you offer to this important moment in history?</p>
<h3><a title="http://www.csmonitor.com/USA/Latest-News-Wires/2011/1002/Wall-Street-protests-lead-to-hundreds-of-arrests-on-Brooklyn-Bridge-VIDEO" href="http://www.csmonitor.com/USA/Latest-News-Wires/2011/1002/Wall-Street-protests-lead-to-hundreds-of-arrests-on-Brooklyn-Bridge-VIDEO" target="_blank">Wall Street protests lead to hundreds of arrests on Brooklyn Bridge</a></h3>
<p>Occupy Wall Street is yet another thread in the new social fabric we are all weaving; a different pattern with impressive signs for change in how we relate to each other, to the environment, and frame our basic social order. The plea is to go deeper in our thinking, not to stay in the superficial, symptoms category of right and wrong, good and bad. We can help each other find a way out of the materialistic misery that envelopes all of us, from the very rich to the very poor. Its about you, its about me, and its about time.</p>
<p>The deepest concern that is finally coming to light is how we have been alienated from each other. Social media is here to help us connect. The tweets of encouragement for those on the Brooklyn Bridge were from around the world. There is no more hiding and ignoring. The opposite of alienation is connection. In our <a title="Total Leadership Connections" href="http://www.ceoptions.com/total-leadership-connectionstm/" target="_blank"><strong>Total Leadership Connections</strong></a> program that is the core teaching &#8220;we are all connected and no one wins unless we all do&#8221;. The dictators around the world are learning this, now those who have taken more than their fair share on Wall Street are in the world classroom.</p>
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