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      Have the rules for competent leaders changed
      Business, Leadership, Leadership Strategies, Leadership Styles

      Have the Rules for Competent Leaders Changed?

      • Sylvia Lafair
      • March 11, 2020
      • competent leaders, Leaders, Leadership, leadership rules, Leadership Success

      Have the rules for competent leaders changed over time? 

      Has social media and the fast pace of the world made the qualities of what real leadership is so different? 

      I say NO. 

      I spent time researching what the leaders of old did to keep projects moving quickly. I spent time looking at what was expected of leadership teams and leadership development way back when there were so few ways of calculating and keeping records

      Here is what I found.

      There are 5 qualities of competent leaders that have not changed over the centuries. 

      I was musing about this looking at old photos from when we took a group of senior executives on our “Leadership in Action” trip to Peru.  

      When we visited Machu Picchu, I was awestruck by the buildings fused together without mortar, as if dropped from the sky in the middle of this gorgeous Andean mountain range. I asked and really pondered over the magnificence, thinking “How’d they do that?” 

      Then on another trip to Egypt, I stood in awe at the base of the Great Pyramid of Giza and had the same thought, “How’d they do that?” 

      I imagined the leadership teams that were assigned the tasks of getting these sites completed. I mused about the challenges and disputes that likely occurred. How did the ancient leadership executives get the jobs done? 

      Here are the 5 qualities of competent leaders that have lasted over time and are still in place today. Please let me know if you agree. 

      Quality #1: Effective communication.

      Whether by megaphone or cell phone, a key requirement is to let people know what is expected of them. The words and the images these words create are vital to getting to the goal. 

      Finding the exact ways of requesting and requiring what has to happen is a skill for leaders that transcends the centuries.

      Quality #2: Preparation.

      Being proactive is the ability to make things fall into place, rather than merely responding after the fact. When you are prepared, you can, in a sense, see the future before it occurs. 

      You study the weather, the adversaries, the details, and you are ready to intervene rather than be at the mercy of unforeseen events.

      Quality #3: Listening.

      Leaders pay attention to the body language, gossip, rumblings of the subtle discontent. It’s not about arguing and making others feel stupid or unnecessary.

      It’s about taking in all the information to make the most effective decisions rather than grandstand what you and only you think and want. 

      Quality #4: Understanding the system.

       Knowing how the whole is connected to the parts is critical for leaders. It has been said that when someone sneezes in India, someone in Indiana may catch a cold (or a virus). 

      The ability to facilitate sustainable change by identifying and strengthening positive connections and limiting the negative implications of a project is a high-level leadership skill.

      Quality #5:  Balance macro and micro initiatives.  

      Finding the sweet spot between too much or too little interaction keeps things moving smoothly. The need to exert excessive control can kill creative energy and teams become like robots. However, on the other side, letting it be a free-for-all creates havoc and shoddy work results. 

      The key is offering suggestions and making definite calls in the moment, where they are required while permitting input from others, is the sign of adept leaders. 

      While the modern workplace is now volatile, bewildering and frustrating, is it really that different in the human requirements? 

      My e-book, “5 Leadership Development Lessons” continues the dialogue and is available here. 

      Comments? Send me an email or better yet, pick up your smartphone and call me. 

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      Communication, Leadership

      Leaders and Rebels

      • Sylvia Lafair
      • March 6, 2020
      • Communication, Leaders, Leadership, rebels

      Today we’re going to look at why we get so stuck when things keep repeating and repeating. It’s the old quote by Einstein, “if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.” And that’s the truth. Ain’t it the truth?

      So, we’re going to look at how in relationships we get stuck in patterns and today we’re going to talk about the rebel and the boss, and I got an email from the boss in a company where she said, “I’m going bunkers with Donna.” Donna is our best salesperson but she goes around and everything I say, she has to challenge everything. If I say “today’s Tuesday,” she’ll say, “well, it’s going to be Wednesday soon.” If I say, “it’s sunny outside,” she said, “well it’s going to rain. So, what are you talking about,” and she is driving me nuts. So, what happened was everybody said, “fire her, fire her, fire her,” and I thought there’s got to be a better way and I was reading ‘Don’t Bring It to Work,” and I thought, hmm, she sounds just like the proverbial rebel.

      She has to challenge, then she gets all her friends and her colleagues on her side and sooner or later they’re going to swoop into HR with a complaint. So, I thought what can I do and how can I do it differently.

      So, here’s an important tip for the day. What I listen to were some of the things that she said and it was always about me being loud. I can be at times, but not often… is what was said to me being being bossy.

      Well, I am the boss. So, I have to tell people what to do, but I’m very inclusive and she she said, “you’re always telling me, I’m doing things wrong. Well, sometimes she does and sometimes she doesn’t and that’s part of being a leader.

      Right, right, okay. So, I got some reading. The book “Don’t Bring It to Work,” and then I talked to some people and I thought okay, let me change me, “if you’ve always done what…” you go, “if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.”

      Forgotten, anyway I called her into the office and here’s the tip, I lowered my voice. Now, I’m not loud all the time but I lowered it, so she had to lean in rather than push back. Made a difference and then what I did was, I talked a little bit slower. I had lowered my voice. I talked a little bit slower, and I asked some questions. I asked her, “what is it that I can do so that we can get along together?” And then, I did something that I don’t do as much as I said. I zipped it and I listened and it’s called an accountability question.

      So, I waited and she sat there and finally she said, “well, she said I often feel like you, don’t think what I do is right or good or appropriate,” and then I push back and she started sitting back.

      Again, watch behavior. Watch body language. Listen to the words. What happened was, I made a commitment to be able to talk with her in a different way the next time, the next times we talked, but I said, “if there’s a problem, can you figure out how to come to me first and then we can discuss it before you start talking with your colleagues and creating a lot of stir of what’s going on.

      So, please this is a quick tidbit when you’re talking with a rebel. Somebody who always wants to challenge authority, will lower your voice. Talk more slowly and ask the question, “what can I do to make a difference?

      When in our relationship, see what happens. Let me know, and the book ‘Don’t Bring It to Work’ it’s a good one. Take a look at it.

      Thanks so much. Talk to you soon.

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      Leadership Lessons How To Raise Healthy Kids To Be Excellent Leaders
      Business, Change, Communication, General Resolution, Goals, Growth

      Leadership Lessons How To Raise Healthy Kids To Be Excellent Leaders

      • Sylvia Lafair
      • January 22, 2016
      • Growth, Kids, Leaders, Leadership

      We know all the basics: lots of fresh air, sleep, fruits and vegetables, friendships, and loving parents.

      There is one extra area that works like a charm. It is kids teaching kids.

      You see, too much adult supervision and youngsters stop listening. All they hear is blah, blah, blah. And more than that, there is a deep pattern starting when the little ones are around two years old to say “NO.”

      Enter the peer group.

      No, I’m not talking about in the teen years when there is the fear of rebelling and going to the dark side with friends. I’m talking about when friendships are forming and behavior patterns can be developed amongst the youngsters for good habits.

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