Today I’m discussing:
Gravity Statements (A New Way Of Thinking) Saves Leaders Aggravation.
Here is what you will learn when you listen in:
* How Gravity Impacts your conversations.
* The key to a great Gravity statement.
* Let Gravity help you get past overwhelm.
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So how do you know if you are a real Unicorn (i.e. GUTSY) Leader?
Unicorn Leaders are extremely rare:
+ They shatter expectations
+ Take business to the next level
+ People love to be in their presence.
+And more!
In this broadcast (from Italy!) I share the 10 attributes needed for you to become a unicorn leader.
Go Bigger, Go Bolder. Go GUTSY
I’m sharing how YOUR self-doubt can and does destroy YOUR relationships.
In this video I share with you:
+ Self doubt is a learned behavior and where it often get started in your life.
+ What happens when your abilities clash with your beliefs.
+ How mirror neurons (huh, what are they?) help or hinder your relationships.
Let me help you learn to challenge your negative self-talk and move to next level success.
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I love this video I cover:
+ + Why modesty is an over-rated virtue.
How self-doubt sets up sabotage.
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How to “toot your own horn” without being obnoxious.
The world has changed and women can no longer be shushed or denied their time to speak out.
Using the tips, I will give you for effective communication can boost your personal brand as you you self-promote.
Let me help you find the balance point between overwhelming others with your prowess and undervaluing your accomplishments.
It’s easier than you think and will help you get your next promotion or the plum assignment you’ve been yearning for.
It’s’ time to Go Bigger>>> Go Bolder>>> GO GUTSY
Use these 5 steps to get yourself out of overwhelm…
In this broadcast I cover:
What you, as a leader, can do to get more energy, confidence, focus, and ease by making some simple changes.
I share the specific, time tested tips on how to move past frustration and anger when demands on you seem impossible.
How Fonzi (yup from Happy Days) gave me important clues to leadership success that applies to all of us:
+ Lead with your imagination (it’s not what you think)
+Follow with determination (it’s more than you think)
+ Listen to suggestions (it’s a game changer)
+Collaborate (it’s the royal road to success)
Here is some great advice so you can stand out from the pack and make your mark on the world. Isn’t that what you are here for? To make a difference? Then get to it!!!
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Generosity at work has so many possibilities. You know, doing something nice for people makes them appreciate you and it makes you feel good. Everybody wins. You are happier and they are happier.
I received an email that sums up the benefits of being generous that I want to pass on to all of you.
Dear Dr. Sylvia,
I don’t know if you remember “the rose challenge” from several years ago. I just want you to know that what you teach has long range impact. Here’s a great story, true and amazing at the same time. I hope it has impact on your other clients and even on the world in general.
There was a woman in our Total Leadership Connections program who was a model of patience and integrity. She was going through a tough time. Lost her job due to downsizing, left her marriage (or her marriage left her!) and she was starting to have physical symptoms from all the stress.
One day, in our meeting she said all she wanted was for someone to hold a hand out with compassion. She didn’t want a “handout” she wanted some comfort.
Later you told our group about “the rose challenge.”
Each of us was offered the option to buy a rose, just one rose and either give it to someone else or keep it for ourselves. No judgment. Give the rose where you think it will have the most impact.
I remember the power of the moment when at the next session we all brought roses to give to our struggling classmate. She sat with 14 roses in multiple colors and you could just see the bloom return to her cheeks.
Generosity….. she felt wonderful on the receiving end and we all felt spectacular on the giving end.
Now, here is where it gets fascinating.
Several years have passed and my son, having heard of “the rose challenge” who just graduated from college, decided to give a rose to a classmate he didn’t know very well. She is, as he told me, smart and pretty, and yet she didn’t get into the graduate school of her choice and seemed sad whenever he talked with her.
He felt awkward yet determined to follow through with this small gesture and a note saying “Yes you can. Just go for it.”
Days later she called him to thank him and this is where it’s amazing. She was talking with her mother and as she was telling her the story of the sweet rose of generosity the mother said, “Wait a minute. I’ll call you right back.”
It turns out that yes, you guessed it! This is the daughter of the woman in our TLC program.
How do these things happen?
All I know is that generosity brings light to this complex world and that the newest research shows that making generosity a regular habit has influence on long term wellbeing and is core to happiness.
Let’s all wake up and smell the roses!
With deep respect,
Mark
So, there you have it. Generosity of spirit is part of the character development in all of our programs. Just one small gesture of kindness can make the world of difference. It’s a habit worth keeping.
Best,
Sylvia
Do you ever just wish that you could have a moratorium on change? That maybe, just for a month you could count on things staying the same? That you could depend on your work colleagues to show up and do their jobs so you could do yours? That sales would percolate and products get shipped on time? And yet, that’s not the way it is.
We all seem to be overdosed on change.
Change is the bedfellow of stress. Each day there is something new, exciting or challenging to keep us on our toes. And many of us are sick and tired of the ambiguity and uncertainty that makes us go home tired, burned out, defeated.
High daily outside pressure can lead to high daily internal pressure and voila, stress enters uninvited.
A study in the journal Psychosomatic Medicine indicates that job burnout is a strong predictor of coronary heart disease and high stress leads to wear and tear and eventually weakens the body.
Stress, due to constant change, is the hot word in today’s work world.
To stay healthy and meet today’s business challenges with poise and power you need to look at the following check list and make sure you have the basic areas covered.
Mistakes lead to hypertension, poor sleep patterns and lousy relationships. So, pay attention.
Escape from reality: Your body wants to use old, outdated tactics of fight, flight or freeze to battle change. Won’t work. You can duke it out, and change will still win, leaving you exhausted. You can run but there’s nowhere to hide. You can stay put and change will happen all around you anyway.
Blame someone else: Upper management asking too much of you or direct reports slacking off. Maybe so. Are you looking for protection from the heavy load or blaming those who are not paying attention to your burden? The more you “should” on others as the culprits the longer it takes to get the results you want.
Time is the enemy: You are willing to change and get the work done. That’s the spirit. Except you want to do it on your personal schedule. You think you will feel less stress when you can spread out the project so you have more time to prepare. Won’t happen. When you resist the pace, you fight the impossible. Time is the constant, it won’t change. It’s up to you to move faster and resist less.
Work harder not smarter: Shifting your mindset is the monumental task. That’s where the real work is. Once you look around you and begin to create new patterns of reacting you can reduce stress and increase efficiency. Adapting to the newest technology or even asking for help when you never did in the past is the way. If you think adapting is tough, not adapting is tougher. Just ask a dinosaur.
No tolerance for course correction: Just in the middle of the project, when all seems to be going well, change changes its mind. This is the time to pivot, to improvise, to laugh at the impossibility of it all, to bounce and create a mid-course correction. The more you balk at the inevitable the more stress will sabotage success.
Making stress work for you takes personal initiative.
Over the top stress won’t go away. You need to be the master of your fate and make sure you are the stress master of your own destiny. It’s okay to get angry, rail your fist against the situation, however, only for a minute. Then admit you need to surrender to change and find new ways of responding.
Resistance to change is the biggest enemy of success.
Start to observe and manage your own behavior more effectively. Look at what triggers your upset and stop. Stop, breathe, pivot.
Yes, stop, decide to be the master of your reactivity not the servant of your old, outdated behavior. Then you and change become colleagues rather than adversaries. That’s the foundation of successful stress management.
Stupid leaders are a dime a dozen.
What they do looks the same through the centuries. Here’s what Cicero, Roman politician and lawyer who served as consul in 63 BC had to say, “Any man can make mistakes, but only an idiot persists in his error.”
Habit #1: Repetition. You know the saying that if you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always gotten. Henry Ford, Mark Twain and Tony Robbins have been credited with this thought. Take your pick, they are all creative innovators, the opposite of stupid leaders.
When a leader fails to embrace a culture of change and innovation you end up with stagnation and pattern repetition.
Pattern repetition will bring down the best of ideas and people. Think of it this way. The passion of work is to be a creative problem solver. Once you solve a problem you get to a new one and the excitement and challenge is positive.
However, if you keep facing the same problem over and over, you have hit a pattern.When the tendency is to repeat foolish, ineffective, or self-destructive behavior, you are in the realm of stupid.
Habit#2: Avoidance. The tendency to look away or leave a situation that is uncomfortable is one of the major attributes of stupid leaders. They especially avoid conflict and as American philosopher Elbert Hubbard said, “To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing and be nothing.”
Avoiders know what is going on, they simply prefer to let others tackle the dissention. In meetings, an avoider will leave when the situation begins to heat up. They will tell their second in command to handle the situation and only enter conversations when things have come to a happy conclusion.
While there is always an opportunity for growth and development, becoming self- aware is disruptive and stupid leaders let their fears keep them from engaging.
Habit#3 Denial: This group of stupid leaders are the true “Not Sees.” They pretend the world is great, business is wonderful and all is fine with the world. They do not have back-up plans and insist that the bottom- line will always be in the black.
Denying what is going on will not make it go away, it ensures that it will never be resolved.
These stupid leaders will always point fingers at others for not telling them the truth and when the truth is told they will pretend they never heard what was said and spend their time defending their position and blaming others for, well, for everything that can’t be seen through rose colored glasses.
Policies and procedures are often appropriate to the times in which they were created. However, by repeating, avoiding, or denying that times have changed and everything must be re-examined, stupid leadership gets even worse. Stupidity becomes mental blindness.
Help stupid leaders become smart ones. Speak up, speak out, stay centered and strong. Turn on the lights to look at our fast- paced digital world. Read books like Whiplash: How to Survive Our Faster Future by Joi Ito and Jeff Howe. Better yet. Read it and give it to a stupid boss.
The cure for stupid is communication and compassion.
Disrupt the traditional rules that no longer work. Help everyone begin to see with new eyes, see what they are afraid to see. You, right now, become the type of leader the world needs now. It’s about you, it’s about me and it’s about time.
Let’s start with a short quiz:
What’s the best thing about workplace success?
A. You get more money.
B. You get more recognition.
C. You get more work.
If you answered “A,” you are on the right track. Workplace success usually translates to earning more money. If you’re like most people, you want a financial reward for hard work. However, recognition and power are right up there, too. Money, coupled with power, makes people salivate. You could probably think of any number of celebrities who live their lives basking in these two categories.
Are they really the lucky ones? In a sense, yes; however, dark clouds are often on the horizon.
The answer that causes the most angst is, “C.” The more you succeed, the more that is expected of you. The more you climb that ladder of success, the happier you are…that is, until you hit the “Peter Principle.”
This idea has been around for a long time. It’s when you keep receiving promotions because your skills are exemplary and then one day you are at the top of your career. The cycle continues and you get promoted again and suddenly, you are at a loss about what to do.
Enter success stress.
Once you go too far past your skills base and you’re in uncharted territory, all the money and all the recognition in the world becomes null and void.
Look, good engineers know how to engineer; accountants know how to count; pharmacists know their pills; physicians know the body; marketers know the market…you get the idea.
What causes most success stress? It’s the people, sweetheart. Managing people is a whole different world than knowing how to code, count, or create an emoji.
No matter how accomplished you are, how much your technical skills are valued, it’s the people part that causes workplace conflict that will often bring even the smartest people to their knees.
Office politics, human resource hassles, and legal issues, can lead to emotional burnout and turn success into unimaginable stress.
As you have climbed high perfecting your entrepreneurial symphony, think of all the people you bring with you. No longer possible to play it solo, now you have a whole orchestra behind you. And I bet, you wish all those now working next to or near you, would leave their anger, sob stories, excuses, petty jealousies, procrastination, and bravado at the door and just get their work done.
It’s not so easy being successful.
And guess what, their upsets and burdens lend themselves to having your own insecurities and frustrations rear their annoying little heads.
All is not lost, however – success stress can be stopped right in its tracks. It depends on how willing you are to learn the very basic rules of people management. There are 13 very common behavior patterns that show up at work and make people nuts.
Your job, is to point out the patterns that get in the way of collaboration and help those who look to you for guidance, transform the outdated habits to ones that make the day fun and positive.
Take for example, the drama king or queen, one of the key patterns in the book, “Don’t Bring It to Work.” Do you have one (or a few) in your employ? They’re the folks who have hissy fits over nonsense and waste important time. You can ignore them or pretend them away; however, they make the workplace an emotional wasteland…talk about success stress!
They can damage your reputation, the reputation of the company, and even worse, can be the source of ugly lawsuits.
Take the time to learn about pattern transformation and help steer these divas away from dumping on your emotions to using their emotions for the good of the group.
Once you tackle the source of success stress, you can once again focus on shaking the money tree and exuding positive power from a productive team.
Now, take a moment to sit in the sun, chill for a bit, and make the most of your success!
